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QUESTION ON SEX

We have received several letters from teens reading this blog and many of them have allowed us to publish them to encourage others. We will run a few:

Dear Kirsten,

I can't stop thinking about sex, especially when I have to do group work with my male classmates. I am so depressed.

-Tolani, !4 year old girl



Tolani, hello to you. I want you to get yourself together and cheer up!!! What you are going through is the same with millions of teens around the world.Persuade yourself to relax. Tell yourself that you can be free and happy around guys. The more you try to stop these sexual thoughts, the more obsessed you will probably become about the issue. If you just relaxed and accepted this as a very normal part of being a 14year old, you could give yourself a break and probably laugh over it. Whenever you start to feel 'funny' or sexual, just stop and tell yourself you can get through this period of adolescence. It will be over in a matter of time. Quit being depressed and get busy with school work and other mind-tasking activities. These will fill your thoughts and challenge your thinking in a higher way.


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Yinka said…
I have the problem always too
15:00
Godson said…
Thank you ma
04:37
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